Month: May 2014

A Day at the National Science Centre

Both of us parents have been postponing our plan to visit the National Science Centre for a long, long time. I was aware that the 1001 Muslim Invention exhibition began last year at the Centre, but only after I checked again the website that I knew I have not have much time left to postpone the trip if I don’t want to miss the opportunity to see the exhibition, as it will end pretty soon. I told my husband of that, and he agreed to go to the Centre last weekend.

And yes, we would have that little kiddo with us all the time, and I am not sure how much we could spend our time really focusing on the exhibition.

However, once we stepped inside the Centre we already knew that there was only one way to make the trip as effective as it could be – entertain Isa until he gets tired and falls asleep, then only can we have a peaceful time to indulge in the exhibition.

It turned out that National Science Centre is such a great place for a kid, even at Isa’s age!

Isa was so, so excited with all the things he saw, and touched and heard there, that after two hours he surrendered to exhaustion. The (permanent) gallery and displays are mostly, if not all, interactive, he went crazy pushing buttons and waited for the reaction. Forget about him learning  proper science, I am just glad he was entertained and stimulated much.

We went in at around 11:30 AM, and by nearly 1:30 PM he fell asleep during the introductory session to the 1001 Muslim Invention exhibition. I guess a dark room (they were showing a video clip during the session) and two bottles of milk made it harder for him to stay awake.

Isa woke up two hours after that, as soon as we left the exhibition hall.

It seems that he truly enjoyed it that when I showed him the  photos of him at the Centre, he started crying, wanting to go back to the place.

Since it costs us adult nothing more than RM 6 each, I don’t think the next visit is far ahead in the future!

Reading List Update – May 2014

I am currently reading these books:

  1. How to Read a Book (1970 edition) – Mortimer Adler
  2. Isu-isu Dalam Pemikiran Islam – Dr Farid Shahran
  3. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands – Laura Schlessinger
  4. ‘Tis – Frank McCourt (re-reading this for the 4th time)

I have taken out a lot of books from the reading list, in the effort to be a bit more disciplined. But still, at different time and mood, I need different kinds of book.

#1 is the major read currently, which is an extremely good book that suddenly find its way to my reading list.

#2 is a collection of essay, have started reading one article (hopefully one per day), while trying to apply what I have  learnt in book #1.

#3 is one I put on my bedside table, to flip through for a few minutes everyday. As it is a practical, light reading book, I just need to pick up some points along the way and go straight to practising it.

#4 is a non-fiction I picked up during my sick leave, and am still reading it whenever I am too tired or need some good laugh. Husband has been wondering why I keep reading it over and over again. Perhaps because I have not bought any fiction for a long, long time.

 Al Muhaddithat

 Sustainability is for Everyone

 Wild Swans: Three Daughters of China (Reread)

PhD: Kecil Tapi Signifikan

Happy reading y’all!

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This entry is part of my ‘Read-a-Book-a-Month’ attempt.

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The Lonely Road

I wrote about the change we made a while ago to our daily routine, but guess what, it lasted for a few weeks, before we both succumbed to the old routine – of commuting together in one car. Other than taking out one car from jamming  the road towards the city centre, I was just blessed to have him around for an additional two hours every day.

 

But this week my husband has to attend a training about 1.5 hour away from our home, so we just had to commute separately. While I could feel that being able to get home by 6:30 PM is a major relief since I don’t have to wait for him – and allowed me to cook for dinner, but I just feel disconnected from my husband – that two hours spent daily in the car now seems more precious than ever.

 

Sure, Isa can hold a conversation with me these days (though under a certain mood his answer to my question would only be ‘Tak Nak’ i.e. no) , but I want my husband.

 

Oh, how much patience those in long-distance relationship have!

On His Birthday

We did nothing but offered countless prayers for his life here, and in the hereafter as we parents always do.

And no, we do not plan for any birthday party soon, themed or otherwise.

This is the best we could to for our son, who grows up and will grow up (God willing) in a materialistic world, and we are both trying our level best to provide an environment where such belief has no place to cultivate, educating  ourselves as well along the way.

I try as much to give him what he needs, that he shouldn’t expect to get things he always wanted only on his birthday,or even worse if he expects to receive more from his relatives and friends.

We clothe him fine, we buy toys regardless of the price if we (mostly I) feel that he needs them, we get him books, we feed him well (and he doesn’t like sweet cakes, so no need for birthday cakes, really!) we give him love as much as we could offer – and those things do not need a special occasion to be given. 

My husband has nothing against holding a party where family and friends are invited (we did so last year, a few weeks post Isa first birthday), but he insists on not making it a tradition,a must.  

p.s: I do not believe that birthday parties are not permitted in Islam. 

 

 

The Proper Feeding & Care of Husbands: 10 Quick Lessons from Chapter 6,7, and 8

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  1. My man would need a time off to be with his friends. In my case, it is with his comics.
  2. My man wants my acceptance and approval. Never disrespect or belittle things that he does, everything I said matters and affects him.
  3. My man’s equivalent of my good, meaningful conversation, is  good and meaningful intimate times.
  4. My man must be respected in his own home. He is the head of the house. Keep him in the loop. Full stop.
  5. Take good care of myself and make the effort to keep myself fit and pleasant-looking. He’d rather have me spent my time doing that instead of cleaning the house or cooking 24/7 – this one I know well.
  6. A good man is hard to find, not to keep. I’m lucky I found my husband, so now I need to keep him.
  7. “Mom equals protection and nurturance. Dad equals autonomy and adventure. It is the perfect balance that helps produce a functional, secure human being.” It implies that I don’t need to be critical  of his parenting.
  8. My husband has feelings, and I should stop ‘abusing’ him as the author defines it. A woman abuses the husband in many ways: tantrums, railings, contentions, poutings, sarcasms, eye-rolling, door-slamming, neglect of the marriage bed, etc. 
  9. My mood influences and sets the whole family’s mood. Be careful about that.
  10. It will take time to undo the scar I have done, but it will work, God willing