One of my favourite pastime online is browsing through quotation pages. Some of them are inspiring, most of them make me think, some make my day by inducing laughter at suicidal rate.
Here are a few that made me think, on man and woman. Some are feministic quotes. Again, I don’t agree with all, but yes, they remind me that I have something called ‘girl power’. No, not a fan of Spice Girls though.
And I, though favour the likes of Vin Diesel, still find shy guys who blush are cute, and thus, beautiful. So I agree with Susan Sontag, though this quote is somehow follow the gender-conditioning tendencies.
- Lawana Blackwell, The Dowry of Miss Lydia Clark, 1999
Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, “She doesn’t have what it takes.” They will say, “Women don’t have what it takes.” ~Clare Boothe Luce
My comment: True, true, true. That’s the essence of covering your aurah, in my perspective. So that people treat you as a person, not as a lady. Not to be described by ‘a girl with long legs, and blond hair’ but ‘an individual with an intellect.’
Never let the hand you hold, hold you down. ~Author Unknown
My comment: A good, practical principle in finding your soul mate, your partner for life, your other half, however you call it. I read an interview with Betty Chew, Lim Guan Eng’s wife (CM of Penang, in case you don’t know) in HarakahDaily. Whoa. She’s superb! She won a state seat in Melaka this year, again, while her husband won one in Penang, now the CM.
“Bagaimana puan menguruskan hal ini. Puan Adun di Kota Laksamana, Melaka sedangkan Guan Eng Ketua Menteri Pulau Pinang, bila puan dan Guan Eng berjumpa?” soal Ketua Pengarang Kumpulan Harakah, Ahmad Lutfi Othman.
Betty terdiam sambil menguntum senyum…
“Kami sedang berusaha untuk memikirkan cara terbaik… saya sendiri tak sangka begini… saya tak jangka (DAP) boleh menang banyak,” katanya jujur.
“Semasa pilihan raya dulu Guan Eng di mana?” soal Lutfi.
“Dia di Penang,” jawab Betty.
“Puan di mana?” soal Lutfi lagi.
“Saya di Melaka,” ujarnya sambil ketawa.
Never let yourself being held down, or held back. Remind me of that on my wedding, please.
Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition. ~Timothy Leary
My comment: An insult well-said. Clap clap clap!
You don’t have to be anti-man to be pro-woman. ~Jane Galvin Lewis
My comment: Right. I’ve been trying to stop those anti-boys sentiment that has been in my blood for years (thank you SEMSAS, for that!), and try to live with the verse in the Quran that says, man and woman are helpers for each other.
There are very few jobs that actually require a penis or vagina. All other jobs should be open to everybody. ~Florynce Kennedy
The only jobs for which no man is qualified are human incubators and wet nurse. Likewise, the only job for which no woman is or can be qualified is sperm donor. ~Wilma Scott Heide
The test for whether or not you can hold a job should not be the arrangement of your chromosomes. ~Bella Abzug
My comment: I agree partially, well, after a laugh on the first one. But I agree more with the second one. And I am completely for the third one.
I’ve came to think of men and women this way: We are different, but we are equal. Some difference are due to gender-conditioning, which I oppose and hope that I don’t have to live being restricted to such conditioning, while in some other aspects I just know that God created us different, physically, and sometimes that counts in career. But not the brain. Not the intellect-wise. We are all equal in that sense, ok? I can design a catalyst fixed bed reactor as well guys!
I’ve yet to be on a campus where most women weren’t worrying about some aspect of combining marriage, children, and a career. I’ve yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing. ~Gloria Steinem
My comment: True. Yet to find one who cares as much as her wife does. And because they tend not to think, they become the culprit in parenting. They tend to please their wives by giving lots of expensive things. That does not matter, if you could not care less to help her in the kitchen. At least not for me.
I think, therefore I’m single. ~Lizz Winstead
My comment: This one is for my single girl friends. Don’t just settle down with the one available. Think. Think of who you really want, girls. Don’t be a desperate singleton.
Nobody objects to a woman being a good writer or sculptor or geneticist if at the same time she manages to be a good wife, a good mother, good-looking, good-tempered, well-dressed, well-groomed, and unaggressive. ~Marya Mannes
My comment: The definition of successful women are complex. You are expected to be excellent at everything, as Marya Mannes. If your children become evil, then you are not a successful woman though you own a big company. But men are not judged by this criteria. Why? Why? Why?
Men define intelligence, men define usefulness, men tell us what is beautiful, men even tell us what is womanly. ~Sally Kempton
My comment: Who says that for a girl to be considered pretty she must have this long straight hair, a skinny body and all other images you see everyday in commercials and advert? Who tells you that a perfect figure has to be 36-24-36?